How do you know when you are finished?
After the birth of her last baby, the beautiful Hannah and I got talking about this very step in life. The moment you decide you are finished having children. We always believed there would be a definitive moment, that you would "just know" you are done. Problem was sometimes that moment doesn't come! So how do you know enough is enough?
You got it. Our guest blogger this week is in fact the amazing New Zealand Mama - Hannah from Blonde and bone.
"When you are finished having children you will just know. You will feel complete and like you are done". These are words that I have heard over and over through the past years of being a parent. After we had Frankie I felt this, well I thought I did anyway until she had grown and left the harder ages. I then found myself falling in love with the idea of growing our family (something that I never thought would happen, especially the thought of pushing out another one after her long and hard birth!).
We were over the moon when we found out we were pregnant again and once our 20 week scan came around and we found out we were having a boy there was another brief moment of 'yay one of each now we are done'. But once this beautiful beautiful peaceful little boy made his way earth side I didn't feel it. I couldn't and still can't get to terms with the fact that this may be a year of lasts. The last time we will get a first smile, the last time we will cut a first tooth, the last time I will cry with pride as our baby learns to crawl and take his first step. Maybe I am being insanely sentimental but it is really a thing to feel like you are finished creating life?
I was talking to a friend today about this subject and she mentioned the confusing internal battle she has with herself about not feeling done but knowing that their youngest child will be their last. Her position is so similar to ours. We are young and have so so much we want to do and achieve as a family. So it is a torn feeling not feeling 'complete' but knowing that this could potentially be your last set of firsts. I would love to know if any of you have felt 100% complete as a family?